Tuesday, December 16, 2008

My Old Flame

So Saturday I went to a Natural History Museum with my little nieces and the rest of my family. I wasn't looking particulary fetching, because hey I'm hanging out with my family and kids and I don't have to impress them. Also it was snowing that day so my hair had gotten wet and kind of wigged out, oh and to top it all off I had a big red blotchy zit right in the center of my face. Anyway, who, who of all people did I turn around and see right next me? This guy I had really liked and gone out with a long time ago and haven't seen since! He was all excited to see me and then what ensured was awkward indeed. I struck my hand out for a handshake, he shook it and then went in for a hug, which I went the wrong way on and it was just weird and it didn't help matters any that my Dad was standing right next to me too. So then we had this awkward conversation, because what do you really talk about with someone that you don't really know anymore. And then that was it and the rest of the time at the museum I tried to avoid him and his pretty wife and their two little boys.

This has been a fear of mine for awhile, not a huge fear, but somewhere in the back of mind there is this thought whenever I go out that I could run into someone I don't want to run into at precisely the time I don't want to run into them. In this case it was running into an old flame when I was looking awful. And this thought creeps into my mind that he is thinking, "Phew, I'm glad I didn't end up with this girl." How come you never run into people like this when you're looking stunning and feeling uber confident. Oh well now that's done with, I don't have to worry about running into him because I already have, unto the next old flame, but this next time I'll be prepared.

6 comments:

i i eee said...

Seriously? The Nanny?

Anyway, that totally sucks, I hate that! But if you try to look at things a different way, hopefully he's saying that he's glad he didn't end up with you anyway, because he's happy he ended up with his wife. If he's a good guy, then that's the way it should.

Sorry, just trying to look on the bright side. Still hate that.

jennifer said...

Just chalk it up to Murphy's Law and think, What would life be without a little irony?

Besides, if he recognized you after all this time, even when you thought you weren't very presentable, you must still be as fetching as when your paths first-crossed, and on an Ugly Day no less!

ww said...

I'd say the fact that he went in for the hug was a sign that he didn't think you were completely repulsive. I have to admit that it is kind of weird when you find out that someone you used to date got married. Oh well, happiness to them!

Spinster in the City (SitC) said...

Yes, at least he didn't run away in fear, and it's not like he hadn't put on a few pounds and lost a bit of hair. We're both not as young and fetching as we used to be right, although I am still recognizable. Thanks for pointing that out Jenn. :)
And just on a side note, my I say I love the Nanny, yes it was a bit cheesy, yes it is a sitcom with canned laughter, but when it comes to understanding spinsters it is very clever and spot on.

Anne Elliot said...

I just found your blog and I am so happy to find others out there with the same feelings and stresses! Do you mind if I add a link to you on my blog?

And I love the Nanny - probably more so now that I am an old spinsty!

Spinster in the City (SitC) said...

Anne, glad you found me. Please do add a link to me on your blog. I need all the publicity I can get!